The dreaded RSVP. How many of us know how to properly RSVP for an event? Do you? After sending out our invitations we came to find out not everyone knows the proper way to RSVP for an event.
So here is my guest etiquette blog. That you may indiscreetly post or email to your guests.
RSVP is the abbreviation of the French répondez s’il vous plait, or “please respond,” so your host is asking you for a response to their event. Etiquette says you must respond quickly. They should be responded to within 24 hours.
Wait did I just say 24 hours? Yep. A speedy reply ensures the host can plan accordingly, plus it demonstrates enthusiasm for the event and appreciation for being included.
If your circumstance doesn't allow you to reply accordingly, call and text the host that you will reply as soon as you can figure out your schedule.
*Tip: Responding on the due date is permissible but it is far more polite to respond before the due date. Also, if you are going to say yes anyway you should reply as quickly as possible and not wait till the due date.
RSVP etiquette for other circumstances
1. When your invitation says regrets only...
Typically regrets only is assigned for large events (250 and over). It is kind to contact the host and let them know that you can't wait for their event.
2. When a wedding invitation arrives with no response card...
Read it thoroughly to make sure you are not forgetting anything. A lot of couples are asking guests to RSVP through an online website, or by texting your response to the couple. For formal weddings, a response card is not required. Guests are requested to send a handwritten note to reply.
3. When the invite arrives by email or text...
Generally speaking, it’s appropriate to respond to the invitation in the same manner as you received it. For instance, if your friend texted you about the birthday celebration he’s hosting next month, it’s appropriate to send a warm, friendly text in response, whether or not you can come. Because of the more immediate nature of texting, it’s best to respond as quickly as possible. If you don’t know at the moment of receipt if you’ll be able to attend, thank the host for his invitation and let him know that you’ll be in touch as soon as you’ve had time to check your schedule.
Most of all remember an RSVP is so that you answer the question of whether you will be attending or not. It is rude to keep your host waiting. The host should never have to chase you down for an answer.
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